Our Thinking About This Site
About FathersWe believe that many fathers are pioneers in their efforts to care for their children today; they are blazing trails and exploring unmapped territory. We believe that most fathers want to do good fathering but that they often face significant barriers to achieving that goal. Our focus is on good fathering, not good fathers. We assume that most fathers want to improve and that all fathers make mistakes.
About Your ContributionsWe are committed to using the stories we receive to understand and encourage good fathering. On a regular basis, we will expand this web site to include many of your stories. We realize that our collection of stories does not cover all the situations fathers are in. The fathers that we have interviewed in our research to date are not meant to be a representative sample. We hope that your stories will fill in some of the gaps in the many kinds of stories we are interested in.
About Our Learning PhilosophyWe think that stories joined with ideas provide a helpful way to promote learning and change. We believe that learning and change come when a combination of cognitive, affective, behavioral, and ethical processes are influenced through stories, ideas, and questions. We believe that stories are particularly useful in teaching fathers because fathers are not told to change in a particular way but are encouraged to find their own meanings and avenues of change through stories. Fathers know their children and themselves best, and they bring unique strengths to caring for the next generation. That's why you won't see a lot of "tried-and-true" specific tips or "how-to lists" for fathers here at FatherWork. There are many good books, programs, and other resources that can provide these kinds of information. Our emphasis, however, will be on providing interesting, informative, and inspiring stories and experiences to help fathers find their own unique and creative ways to meet the needs of the next generation.
About This Web Site's GoalIn short, we believe that if this web site is effective, fathers will want to spend more time with their children and will want to be more involved in their children's lives. We hope fathers will not spend an inordinate amount of time on our home page. Rather, use this web site to get new ideas and strengthen your motivation to be a good father, then log off and spend time with your children. Here at FatherWork, we are committed to our families and to do our best to keep family a high priority. We hope to prompt fathers to make similar commitments to be better fathers.
About This Web Site's LimitsWe realize that some of our beliefs and commitments may be different than yours. We believe that we have developed something useful and respectful, but we also feel certain limitations are necessary with what we want to do. Our purpose is to strengthen fathers and to help them become more aware of their children's needs. We do not want to promote arguing and criticizing of other fathers' choices. Thus, FatherWork is not a bulletin board (BBS) or an on-line chat forum. It is a resource to get new ideas on how to do the work of good fathering and a place to increase commitment to caring for the next generation.